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My wife is asking for more anal? Why?


  • Michael Castleman says:

    Probably because she finds it pleasurable. The anal sphincter and canal (the first couple of inches in) contain high concentrations of touch-sensitive nerves. When gently stroked or fingered, many people enjoy that. Some insist on it every time.

    You ask why she enjoys receptive anal play. Why not? Sex is adult play. What is play? For a moment, consider a children’s playground with swings, slides, climbing structure, sandbox, and other things. What does it mean if a child samples all of them? Or sticks to just one or two? It usually means nothing. It’s just play, having fun.

    Sex is similar. There are many ways to do it, some more popular (intercourse), some less (anal). But they’re all sex, all play.

    No one should ever feel obligated, pressured, or coerced to play sexually in ways they’d rather not. If you don’t want to get into anal play with your wife, you don’t have to. The two of you must develop a repertoire you can both live with comfortable. That said, there are several different of anal play. I urge you to consider them with an open mind and heart. There’s external sphincter massage. There’s fingering. Licking the external sphincter (analingus). Insertion of toys (dildoes, vibrators, butt plugs). Finally, there’s penis-anus intercourse. I suggest you and your wife discuss them all, and decide which you both can enjoy together. To help with that, you might read my new book, Sizzling Sex for Life. It contains a chapter on all aspects of anal eroticism.

    I wish you sizzling sex—however you play.

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