Is it common for a man of 53 to not be able to ejaculate during sex for as long as 4 to 5 days of trying?


  • Michael Castleman says:

    Inability to ejaculate in a 53-year-old is not exactly common—but it’s by no means rare. The best research on this estimates that at 53, about 15 percent of men have difficulty ejaculation, that’s about one man in seven.

    Difficulty with ejaculation/orgasm is men’s secret sex problem. Most people know that men of any age can come before they’d like (premature ejaculation), and that as men age, erection becomes problematic. But few people appreciate the prevalence of non-ejaculation.

    Is he taking antidepressant medication? The SSRI antidepressants (Prozac, Paxil, and several others) are notorious for impairing ejaculation. If he takes an SSRI, he might ask his prescribing physician to switch him to Wellbutrin, a different chemical class of antidepressant that work just as well as the SSRIs but is less likely to cause this problem.

    If he’s not taking an antidepressant, then I suggest you read my low-cost article on Ejaculation and Orgasm Difficulties. It presents the sex therapy program that usually helps. He CAN ejaculate. You and he just need to modify your erotic moves a bit.

    If the article doesn’t turn things around, then individualized coaching from a sex therapist can probably resolve things. Sex therapy usually takes four to six months of weekly one-hour sessions. It costs $150-200/hour though many therapists discount fees for those who can’t afford standard rates. If you’re unfamiliar with sex therapy, clients DON’T have sex with therapists and therapists DON’T watch client couples having sex. For more, read my low-cost article or see the film, “Hope Springs” with Meryl Streep and Tommy Lee Jones. To find a sex therapist near you, visit the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, the Society for Sex Therapy and Research, or the American Board of Sexology.

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