At 50 after some 30 years of a disappointing sex life, I’m starting to become VERY COMFORTABLE with the idea of being single, alone, and sexless for the rest of my life.

To the rest of the frustrated mid-age women, I say, “Sorry, ladies, but what comes around goes around.”

I’ll welcome arguments to the contrary, but why should I care if my libido is down after 40, or 50, or 60?


  • Michael Castleman says:

    Of course, you’re free to choose celibacy if you wish. And you’re not alone. According to the landmark “Sex in America” survey (1999), 12 percent of adults age 18 to 59 have had no partner sex in the past year, 8 percent have been celibate for the past five years, and 3 percent have had no sexual partners since age 18.

    But being single doesn’t mean being sexless. Sex for one is at your fingertips, and in the immortal words of Woody Allen, it allows you to have sex with someone who truly loves you. If you’d like to learn more, read the article on Solo Sex. And if you don’t own a vibrator, you might enjoy experimenting with one. Start with these articles: Vibrators: Myths vs. Truth, The Best Vibrator, and The Strange History of Vibrators.

  • 48 says:

    Hi. I’m almost 50 and feel exactly the same way about sex now.

    For once in my life, I’m not ruled by my thingy down there. I masturbate quite often. And frankly, I have become so good at it that I’m pretty sure that if and when i have sex again with a woman, there is a great chance that i’ll be disappointed at her performance.

    Besides that, I have a lot more energy now, cause I’m not constantly thinking about sex any more. I have started working out, quit smoking and am in the best shape i’ve ever been in my life.

    I feel ladies looking at me a lot more now. But they go completely ignored. It feels great.

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