My wife’s libido has lessened in the last couple of years. We’re both 55 and have been married for over 30 years. Now sex seems like an afterthought for her. Meanwhile, my desire has increased. She often says she wants it but then she’s taken to bathing late at night, knowing I will fall asleep before she gets out of the tub. So no deal. Please help. I’ve tried many different paths to deal with this, but with a college aged child still living at home, it’s not too easy to be spontaneous.