I am a 77-year-old bi-sexual. It is almost a year since I’ve had sex with anyone, man or lady. For the past three years, I’ve been corresponding with a 50-year-old Chinese lady. We’ve been in constant touch, with plenty of sexual talk and play. Now we’re getting near to meeting but in the last few months I can hardly even masturbate and when I do, I get no sperm. We will be meeting soon. What’s the answer?
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With age, the volume of ejaculate diminishes. By the late 70s, most men ejaculate very little and you may feel as though you ejaculate hardly anything. This is normal and nothing to fret about. You’re way past your reproductive years. Your body knows it and sees no reason to produce much ejaculate.
Meanwhile, you say you’re anxious about meeting this woman. That’s perfectly natural. But it may also be the reason you’re having trouble masturbating to orgasm. Stress is a leading cause of ejaculatory difficulties. For more on this, including ways to resolve it, read the article on Orgasm/Ejaculation Difficulties. It may help, but no guarantees….
Since your correspondence with this woman has been frankly sexual, I urge you to be honest with her about your situation. There’s nothing to be ashamed of. She knows you’re in your late 70s. I seriously doubt that she expects you to have the sexual function of a 20 year old. And if she does expect that, I’d venture that she’s not the right gal for you. If you’ve been exaggerating your sexual function, now is the time to set the record straight.
Finally, the fact that she’s Chinese may help you. China has a long and rich sexual culture that views semen as “male essence.” Young men have plenty of essence and are free to ejaculate every time they make love. But in the Chinese view, older men shouldn’t waste what little essence they have left, and as a result, Chinese sexual wisdom advises older men to make love as often as they wish, but to ejaculate infrequently, certainly not every time. The Chinese view may serve you well as you prepare to meet this new woman.