Can’t have orgasms with boyfriend

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• Michael Castleman says:

  August 5, 2015 at 11:00 am

  Your issue is very common among women, especially younger women. You know what gives you erotic pleasure, so when you masturbate, you can fine tune your stimulation based on how different kinds of touch make you feel, and then build up to orgasm.

  But when you’re with a man, especially a young man, he may not understand much about women’s erotic responsiveness, and if you don’t coach him on the specific types of stimulation you like/want/need, then he can’t provide them and you don’t come.

  Now, it can be difficult to tell a lover: do this, don’t do that. One suggestion: When he gives you pleasure, say, ‘Yes.” When his moves don’t move you, remain silent. Pretty quickly lovers go with the strokes that elicit yeses.

  Does he understand that women’s pleasure organ is the clitoris, not the vagina? That only about 25% of women are consistently orgasmic during intercourse? That 75% of women NEED direct clitoral stimulation to have orgasms? If not, he needs to know this.

  It sounds like your boyfriend could use some instruction in women’s sexuality. I suggest that you look through the 100 articles in the Info Library, especially the sections Better Than Ever Sex and About Women, and purchase these: Surprise: Only 25% of Women Are Consistently Orgasmic During Intercourse, Caressing Women: Advanced Erotic Tips for Men, Six Ways to Help Her Have Orgasms, and The Clitoris: New Insights. Or you might rather purchase The Best of Great Sex Guidance—-more than 100 articlesat the very discounted price of just $29.95.

  Good luck educating and coaching him, and if you you need additional assistance, feel free to contact me again.

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