My partner & I rarely have sex at all. I find myself so, HORNY. My partner just doesn’t seem to
care. When we do have sex, he cums immediately. I have not felt his penis inside me a very very long time. I’ve mentioned trying a toy. He wants no part of it. I’ve been feeling so sexual. I don’t know what to do!
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You have an extreme desire difference. Desire differences are virtually inevitable in long-term relationships, but when one partner wants regular sex and the other hardly ever grant that wish, well, that can be maddening. However, sex therapists have developed a program that minimizes the pain, anguish, and resentments of desire differences. I suggest you read “You’re Insatiable!” “You Never Want To!” How Sex Therapists Recommend Overcoming Desire Differences.
It’s possible that his premature ejaculation may play a role in his unwillingness to make love. He may feel embarrassed about his lack of ejaculatory control and that might be cooling his libido. The good news is that sex therapists have developed a self-help program that in a few months teaches around 90 percent of men to last as long as they’d like. I suggest you and your lover read The Cure for Premature Ejaculation.
Finally, it sounds like you’re pretty upset about the lack of sex in your relationship. When lovers have chronic resentment around sex, it can be difficult to implement sexual self-help programs. If the articles don’t provide sufficient relief, I urge the two of you to consult a sex therapist. If you’re unfamiliar with sex therapy, read my article on it, or see the film Hope Springs with Meryl Streep and Tommy Lee Jones. To find a sex therapist near you, visit the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, the Society for Sex Therapy and Research or the American Board of Sexology.
Good luck!