How sex changes for older adults

I am a 56-year-old woman involved for 2 years with a 74-year-old man. He
has tried pills, hormone therapy and even I ejections. He is a wonderful
lover who brings me to orgasm every time with his hands (sometimes taking
over an hour). Once or twice a month I can bring him to orgasm through
fellatio. He no longer gets rigid enough for penetration (which I would
love but I have much better orgasms through clitoral stimulation). He has
been considering going into surgery to get a penis pump and I worry about
something terrible going wrong during the operation.

I have come to believe that as we age sex goes from being physical to being
more emotional. It’s easy to lose the warm, animalistic fury we once had when
you consider the time and energy you have to put into it fighting off all the
frustrating problems that usually appear. The bottom line being you can have
that sexual fulfilling relationship as long as you both put forth the effort
and have the desire, drive and mind to do so. What was once physical and blew
our minds becomes mindful so we can blow away our bodies! It is definitely
not for unmotivated and lazy people. We plan our love-making. Using the
countdown as a type of foreplay, readying our minds and imaginations together
with the love and devotion we share with each other to still have a amazing,
mind-blowing sex life.

We still keep up-to-date about anything that my enhance our relationship. I have
enjoyed many of your writings in the past. You also encourage feed-back.
Thank you for your insight and the work you do.