Hello, Mr. Castleman. Thanks for providing this free service. I’ll try to be brief. My wife and I are in our early 50’s. We’ve been together for 15 years, and our sex life was terrific and very adventurous for many years. She entered menopause about 18 months ago, and it has been a real challenge for her.And me. Most significantly, night sweats and hot flashes. Also, some minor weight gain which she absolutely hates. She thinks I notice this, but I don’t. To me, she is perpetually beautiful. And, predictably, she’s had a large loss of libido. We still have sex about once every two weeks, but I’m pretty sure she would be content to stop sexual activity altogether. Our agreement now is that she is the initiator, when and if it’s going to happen. When it does happen, it’s vanilla and efficient. Based on other stories I’ve heard, I know I should be (and I am) grateful for any sex at all. My wife is committed to experiencing menopause in a natural way, without drugs or supplements, which I totally support.
Here are my questions: Does menopause level out? Can we expect that her hot flashes, etc., will eventually diminish, and her libido will return in some real way?
I believe I am a supportive partner. I am open to being more so. I would also like to not lose myself in this experience. Despite my age, I am grateful to say I am healthy and very sexually interested, and am hopeful for something of an eventual “bounce back,” as time is fleeting.
I’ve left out a few details, but that’s the gist. Thanks for your time.