I have an unusual question. My wife and I have been married for over 30 years. Our sex life has been quite vanilla since we married. I have tried to ask about new things only to be shot down, turned down, and basically condemned for even suggesting. I do love my wife and do want to please her sexually. We haven’t had intercourse in a few years due to some erectile problems I have along with her post menopause. I love to please her orally and know that she likes it a lot. Me, on the other hand, I could care very little if at all about her reciprocating the pleasure. She now asks what she could do to please me. I am at a point where I don’t want her know what I would like. I am ashamed to let her know my thoughts and desires. Is it normal only to be concerned for her pleasure and not mine?