Man with erectile dysfunction during sex

A story you’ve heard before. One of her exes was bigger, and she recalls the sex was better. Somehow current man finds out. She wants him to put it out of his mind; she loves him dearly. He loves her too, but now feels he will be forever humiliated if he stays with her. Modern sympathies lean toward him staying and working through his feelings. But I think lovemaking and sexual chemistry are not just one among a number of other factors for a good relationship, I think these are the central factors for strong bonding and love. For a long-term relationship, some people insist on not being the one “settled for.” I think that’s a healthy perspective (though not the only one). Therefore he’s justified in quitting the relationship. Very interested in your thoughts….. He has a strong desire to quit the relationship. Even though his rational mind cannot justify that – not even close. How could he leave such a wonderful loving partner? If he leaves, he feels great guilt, plus the judgement of others, plus her tears and broken heart. If he stays he might see his compromised masculinity reflected back at him every time he looks at her, he fears, especially during lovemaking. and he’s right.


  • Michael Castleman says:

    Please show my reply to the friend you’re concerned about.

    Many men believe that women want men with huge penises. Some do, just as some men want women with large breasts or butts. Many women also want men who are rich, buff, tall, or star athletes—whatever. But I’ve never once had a man email me saying: I have to leave my relationship because I’m not sufficiently rich, buff, tall, or athletic. Only penis size triggers anxieties that make men think they have to leave.

    Why are men so fixated on size? Largely because they believe it’s key to women’s sexual pleasure, that big ones stretch and fill women and drive them wild.

    Now, men derive great pleasure from inserting their penises into women. This is true for any size penis. Any penis can provide great pleasure for the man it’s attached to. In addition, many women enjoy feeling an erection inside them.

    But contrary to what men see in porn, contrary to what you and your buddy may have gleaned from clueless friends and criminal Web sites hawking fraudulent enlargement products, women get most of their pleasure—and work up to orgasm—NOT from vaginal intercourse, but rather from gentle, extended stimulation of the clitoris by hand, oral sex, or sex toys. The clitoris is the little nub located outside the vagina an inch or two above the opening beneath the top junction of the vaginal lips.

    Fewer than 25 percent of women are consistently orgasmic solely from intercourse. A huge research literature shows that more than three-quarters of women need direct clitoral caresses to come. So men’s size is LESS important to women’s pleasure than what men do with their hands and especially with their lips and tongues. Want to make women come? Want rave reviews as a lover? Then provide gentle, extended oral sex every time.

    If you’d like to be as large as you can be—safely and without being defrauded—you might purchase a copy of my low-cost e-article, Penis Size: How to Make the Most of What You’ve Got. It comes with a money-back guarantee through PayPal, so it’s risk-free.

    I’ll share one tip from my e-article: Penis size depends on the amount of blood in the organ. Stress/worry/anxiety trigger hormonal changes that constrict the arteries that carry blood into the penis—and make it SMALLER. Want to be all you can be? Stop stressing about your size.

    Finally, in my experience, men obsessed with penis size are often unfamiliar with the fine points of lovemaking. If your pal would like practical information that should help him relax about all aspects of lovemaking, I urge him to obtain my low-cost e-book, Enjoy the Best Sex of Your Life. The Penis Size article is one of its 135 chapters, so if he buys the e-book, no need to buy the article. The e-book also carries a money-back guarantee.

    I wish him great sex.

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