A story you’ve heard before. One of her exes was bigger, and she recalls the sex was better. Somehow current man finds out. She wants him to put it out of his mind; she loves him dearly. He loves her too, but now feels he will be forever humiliated if he stays with her. Modern sympathies lean toward him staying and working through his feelings. But I think lovemaking and sexual chemistry are not just one among a number of other factors for a good relationship, I think these are the central factors for strong bonding and love. For a long-term relationship, some people insist on not being the one “settled for.” I think that’s a healthy perspective (though not the only one). Therefore he’s justified in quitting the relationship. Very interested in your thoughts….. He has a strong desire to quit the relationship. Even though his rational mind cannot justify that – not even close. How could he leave such a wonderful loving partner? If he leaves, he feels great guilt, plus the judgement of others, plus her tears and broken heart. If he stays he might see his compromised masculinity reflected back at him every time he looks at her, he fears, especially during lovemaking. and he’s right.