Very interesting site. Very useful information. But I’m insecure about my penis size. Can a woman who had a well endowed boyfriend, then go and marry a guy that is not well endowed? I’m on the small side, 5 1/2″, officially normal, however I fell insecure, and an extra inch or two would be nice. My wife says that I’m the best she has had. How could she feel that way after being with a well-endowed man?
Of course a woman might date a guy with a large penis and then marry a man with a smaller one. It happens all the time. It happened to your wife. Time spent in sex is only a tiny fraction of the time spouses spend together. Most women would rather couple up with a kind, sweet, loving, understanding guy of average endowment than a boor with a tree trunk.
Your wife says she enjoys sex with you. I urge you to believe her and let go of the idea that you’re sexually inadequate because of your size. On the other hand, you’re concerned about your size, so I suggest that you read The Plain Truth About Penis Size, which will empower you to make the most of what you’ve got safely, and I hope, feel better about yourself.
Here’s the deal: Any size penis can give great pleasure to the man it’s attached to. But many men worry, as you do, about their penis’ ability to provide sexual pleasure to women. That fear reflects a misunderstanding of what turns women on. It’s NOT the man’s penis and NOT vaginal intercourse. It’s the clitoris, the wonderful little nub of an organ located outside the vaginal opening and a few inches above it, beneath the upper junction of the outer vaginal lips. Vaginal intercourse does not provide much direct clitoral stimulation. That’s why only 25 percent of women are consistently orgasmic from intercourse. That’s right, only one-quarter of women are regularly orgasmic from what so many men think turn them on. This statistics comes from an analysis of 33 studies over the past 80 years by Elisabeth Lloyd in her book The Case of the Female Orgasm (Harvard University Press). As a group, the 33 studies are remarkably consistent, which makes the conclusion more compelling: Only 25 percent of women are reliably orgasmic during intercourse. For more on this, read Orgasms During Intercourse – Improving Women’s Chances.
Beyond that, if you’d like your wife to sing your sexual praises despite your average endowment, I also suggest that you read Caressing Women: Advanced Erotic Tips for Men, Forget Foreplay, No One “Gives” Anyone an Orgasm, and Lubricants: The Slippery Secret to Sensational Sex.
Now, in personal ads for swinging and casual sex, some women specify that they want men with huge endowments. These women have a right to their personal preferences, just as some men have preferences about a woman’s age, height, weight, breast size, etc. But only a tiny minority of folks get involved in swinging, threesomes, and group sex, at most only 2 percent of the adult population, meaning that around 98 percent of women would happily give up a huge penis if they could climb into bed with a kind, patient, sensual lover who understands how to pleasure the woman’s whole body and her clitoris.