My husband thinks sex is too much work. We have been together for nine years and married for three. We love each other deeply and never argue. Just happy times. The only “problem” is his reluctance around sex. He never initiates it. We’ve talked about it and he says he’s not that into sex, that he finds it to be too much “work”. During sex he always has an erection and he keeps it until I come (15-20 minutes) but he says that it takes a lot of work to keep the erection without ejaculating. He says he finds me extremely attractive (I believe him) and that this attraction makes it even harder for him to keep control over his body. I would really like him to enjoy the whole sex act and not feel as if he needs to be ‘in control’ over his body and mind. What can I do to make him enjoy sex more? Any suggestions?