unhappy middle aged man

I love playing with my butthole. My wife does not. I have a butt plug, which she doesn’t know about. I want to explore anal play further. I also think about being penetrated by a man. Is this ok?


  • Michael Castleman says:

    There is nothing wrong, abnormal, or weird about heterosexual men enjoying receptive anal play. Many men do. It’s sad your wife doesn’t share this interest of yours, but she has every right to feel the way she does.

    If you ‘d like to explore anal play further, butt plugs come in dozens of sizes, and some vibrate.

    You say you think about receptive anal with a man. It’s perfectly okay to have vivid fantasies of this. But if you want to take your reveries into real life, you must decide how to deal with your wife. If you play with a man in secret, you risk stress from keeping it on the low-down, and if your wife discovers it, you may be risking your marriage. If you tell your wife you’d like a hall pass to explore male-male anal play, she may agree, but based on what you’ve told me, I wouldn’t be surprise if she says no, and then what do you do?

    You’re facing a difficult decision. I urge you to consider all the implications before proceeding. Plenty of people have similar fantasies and keep them in the realm of the imagination, never acting on them. If that works for you, fine, enjoy your fantasies. But if not, you may find yourself risking your marriage. Are you prepared to do that? Only you can answer that question.

    I wish you great sex—however you enjoy it.

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