I don’t have great desire for sex. Quite often I go soft in the middle of it. It seems once in a month is fine for me, though my partner wants 2 or 3 times in a week. I can’t keep up.
It’s also frustrating when I hear of husbands doing 2 or 3 times in a night.
Its even more frustrating to hear some of my friends of my age can go whole night.
And I easily get bored with same woman. I know it’s happening due to the weakness of my overall sexual health. I am 40 and in good health. Please help.
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There is no “right” or “normal” amount of sexual desire. It’s fine to want sex as you do only once a month, so don’t assume anything is wrong with you. The problem is that your partner wants it much more frequently, so the two of you have a desire difference. This is a very common problem among couples. Fortunately sex therapists have developed an effective program to resolve desire differences, which I discuss in the article “You’re insatiable!” You never want to!” I suggest you read it.
You say you go soft in the middle of sex. There are many possible reasons for this. I suggest you read the following articles in the Info Library: Erection Myths and the Truth About Erections. Weak Erections Or Erectile Dysfunction? Erectile Dysfunction—Causes. Erectile Dysfunction—Treatments. And the .
You also say you’re in “good health” but complain of “weakness of my overall sexual health.” I’m not sure what you mean, but if you haven’t had a check-up in the past year, I’d urge you to see a physician, mention your concerns about your sexual health and ask the doctor to check you.
The articles in the Info Library may be all you need to resolve your issues, but if not, I’d urge you to consult a sex therapist, ideally with your partner, but if that doesn’t work out, then on your own. You have several overlapping concerns and resolving them may require individual/couple therapy. To find a sex therapist near you, visit the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, the Society for Sex Therapy and Research, or the American Board of Sexology.