Worried young man

The first time I masturbated, I used my mind to fantasize about sex, and I came in about a minute and a half. I ordered the ejaculation guru book to self-help this problem. Will the book work for lifelong premature ejaculation? It covers breathing, stop-start methods, and different positions. I don’t want to pay a lot for therapy, and want to know if it will work and if the results are permanent. Also will having sex often help me with life long premature ejaculation? I want to avoid antidepressants and creams. I would much rather do it the natural way. Thank you.


  • Michael Castleman says:

    I’m not familiar with “the ejaculation guru book,” so I can’t comment on its content. However, deep breathing helps control ejaculation and the stop-start technique is part of the standard sex-therapy program, so that book may help. Of course, I have more confidence in my own low-cost e-booklet on the subject, The Cure for Premature Ejaculation. You might check it out.

    I applaud your reluctance to use antidepressants and creams, both of which just mask the problem without curing it. The good news is that even life-long PE can usually be cured for good with self-help resources like my e-booklet, or with the help of a sex therapist.

    If you have sex twice in rapid succession, like within an hour or two, you may last longer the second time around. But maybe not. Frequent sex is not a great strategy for PE. What you want to do is learn good ejaculatory control. And you can.

    If self-help resources don’t provide sufficient relief, then I’d urge you to consult a sex therapist. Sex therapy usually takes four to six months of weekly one-hour sessions. It costs $150-200/hour, though many therapists discount fees for those who can’t afford standard rates. If you’re unfamiliar with sex therapy, clients DON’T have sex with therapists and therapists DON’T watch clients having sex. For more, read my low-cost article, An Intimate Look at Sex Therapy, and/or see the film, “Hope Springs” with Meryl Streep and Tommy Lee Jones. To find a sex therapist near you, visit the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, the Society for Sex Therapy and Research, or the American Board of Sexology.

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